Disclaimer: I do not deem myself as anyone of importance; I’m merely *me* (as I am/have been/will be, and I’m continuing to learn, accept, embrace and OWN all that *that* means, in order to fully and AUTHENTICALLY discover one’s true identity and then further learning how to adapt and/or apply WHO I AM, to the world around me. But also, please see the lone highlight reel I’ve kept for nearly a month now — I’m not interested in joining groups, “tribes” or any kinds of challenges. I’m here to make AUTHENTIC connections, not sell my soul to boost my numbers or garner attention from those who don’t share similar outlooks or interests as me. I’VE UNFOLLOWED DAMN NEAR EVERY ACCOUNT THAT DOES NOT ALIGN WITH MY PERSONAL GROWTH AND VISION. PERIOD.

I’m dumbfounded but not entirely surprised at the amount of continued “ironic influencer” and “curated imperfection” personas that have totally infiltrated and begun replacing the souls I initially craved and sought out once entering sobriety + recovery, within this commUNITY I love so fucking much, and if you’ve followed me for at least a minute, you should know by now that though I am little (hobgoblin fetus size, to be exact) I AM FIERCE AS FUCK AND I WILL NOT SIT IDLE LIKE I DID FOR MORE THAN HALF MY LIFE, WHEN I SEE SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED AND RESPECTFULLY ADDRESSED.

“I disregard the proportions, the measures, the tempo of the ordinary world. I refuse to live in the ordinary world as ordinary people. To enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy. I am a neurotic — in the sense that I live in my world. I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself.”
― Anaïs Nin

So, *ahem* now that we’ve gotten that li’l pink elephant in the room outta the way…In the midst of the copious (re: deliciously endless) amounts of (seemingly random but definitively related) research I’ve been dabbling in, in regards to the human experience + psyche, there’s this… well, it’s no longer subtle or underlying… growing distrust (disdain, if we’re being totally honest here) of how people are marketing themselves. It’s not even that they’re honestly seeking connections, they’re legit trying to package parts of themselves and sell these ideas to more impressionable folx, and… y’all at the end of of the day, idk about you, but if I’m not looking for a specific product or service to help enhance my HONEST AS FUCK quality of life… I am not interested in folx grasping at straws in attempts to inflate their follower count or sell me SHIT I DO NOT NEED. I DO NOT WANT YOUR ESSENTIAL OILS, I DO NOT WANT YOU EVEN CONTACT ME TRYING TO COAX ME INTO JOINING ANY OF YOUR HEALTH/FITNESS/WELL-BEING BULLSHIT, PLEASE STOP.

We’re all getting assholes sliding into our DM’s be “OMG you’re in recovery, or you like to eat healthy, or you do yoga, and you’re totes inspiring, btw you should totally incorporate this UNNECESSARY (MLM) BULLSHIT I’M HOCKING bc, like, I really think you’d benefit from it OMG LOL.” Seriously, social media is creating solicitors from hell, and it CAN be very difficult to identify or separate REAL people from REALLY FUCKING FAKE PEOPLE because, “How do we recognize authenticity when intimacy has been co-opted by marketing?” (quotation is from Radiant Shimmering Light by Sarah Selecky)

“Authenticity means erasing the gap between what you firmly believe inside and what you reveal to the outside world. —Adam Grant

Here’s an excerpt from this article, that I found to be really insightful:

“Self-promotion is a common feature of both grandiose & vulnerable narcissism, but vulnerable narcissism attempts to manipulate self-presentation out of insecurities and fears. Inauthenticity is a core feature of vulnerable narcissism, noting, “The current findings support the hypothesis that efforts to be seen as perfect lead vulnerable narcissists to take some distance from their true selves. Basically, the search for admiration among vulnerable narcissists often involves hiding aspects of the self…

For some, authenticity and recovery may be intertwined, whereas for others, inauthenticity is not a problem. In the long run, we’d expect vulnerable narcissism to be less stable, as feelings of inauthenticity gradually undermine a shaky sense of self.

Grandiose narcissists are not necessarily interested in changing, and by and large may be essentially living true to themselves—even if it doesn’t always work for others. Vulnerable narcissists are more likely to be living falsely. They could in principle benefit from greater authenticity if the cost of going there is worth it. As individuals, we are left to consider our own characteristics.”

I’ll leave you guys with *one more* quote, then drop an additional resource link below, in case you want to do some research of your own.

“The free soul is rare, but you know it when you see it – basically because you feel good, very good, when you are near or with them.”
― Charles Bukowski

Kristin xo

Additional article:

Millennials and the Authenticity Marketing Trap



  1. Thank you for the excellent reminder of why I write.

    I can get so caught up in the numbers here. “Today’s blog was pretty good. How could only nine people have viewed this gem? What am I doing wrong?”

    Then I remember that I’m writing for me. Writing for my recovery. No need to worry about the numbers. My objective has been met. I contributed to my recovery today!


    1. Thank you for taking the time to leave your thoughts. It’s too easy, and we can do it too often, to forget the baseline of why we do what we do — which are forms of recovering out loud — and easier to get swept up in the “what did I do (or not do) that resulted in # of people stopping by my site.” We must celebrate every tiny victory, come high or low readership numbers, and with that — I celebrate with you. Kudos to you and all the work you do, my friend. It is an honor to fight this good fight along with you. Take care. xo


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